I subscribe to the Zen Habits blog. There was an article I really liked called, A User’s Guide to Fabulous Friendships, that reminded me again how much friends mean and how hard they are to come by.

Here are the guest columnist’s basic points. I like how she breaks apart a frequently-discussed topic — she’s not pithy or trite, so the article hit me differently than other articles on the same subject.

This paragraph is what got me and the main points and link are below.

“…slowly our friends get pushed down the priority list.

This is not necessarily what we want. Few people would dispute the benefits of friendship. The problem seems to be how to fit our friends into an already overcrowded life. Friendship is like a marriage. It cannot be created once. It must be created over and over again. People and priorities change. What worked yesterday may not work today. We must nurture our friendships so they may flourish with us through our changing lives…”

  • Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and others will do the same.
  • Accept that friendships change and sometimes end.
  • There will be disagreements. Stay calm. Don’t make mountains out of molehills.
  • Respect boundaries.
  • Accept people the way they are. Suspend judgment.
  • Have fun. Share rituals. Laugh Often.
  • Make time. Prioritize Relationships.
  • Treat others how you want to be treated.
  • Choose friends wisely. Focus your energy on people who make you feel good.